Was I on a date that I didn't know I was on?

One of my classmates was leaving for the summer and he had asked me if I wanted to get dinner or dessert before he left. Seeing as he had asked me before I had made any other plans I agreed. I ended up going out to dinner with another friend because I hadn't seen her in a while, and I just preferred to have dinner with her. I also didn't want to have dinner with him so as not to give him the wrong impression. When I did return from dinner, I called and said that we could still get dessert if he had the time. I totally didn't expect him to be free because he needed to pack for his trip to Asia. He said that he still wanted to have dessert and that he had some strawberries and chocolate...at this point it was starting to get weird. Then he asked if I wanted to go up to the rooftop...even weirder.

Alright, it's harmless, I told myself. Despite feeling that it was turning into more than just saying bon voyage, I thought that if he did ask me out, I would be prepared, and simply say no in the most diplomatic way. I kept my distance, made sure to sit as far away as possible, and did not to make any inappropriate eye contact. Anyhow, I managed to get through dessert unscathed. There was no flirting, no talk about anything related to "us", and no questions about dating. After getting to the elevator and to my floor, he decided to get off and see me to my door...weirder still. Then I unlocked my door, said "have a great summer" and gave a goodbye hug as I would do with anyone. But he wouldn't let go...then he started to push his cheek against mine...WEIRDER...I was screaming inside! I quickly rolled away, opened my door, said goodbye and then scooted into my apartment.

Is that how things go these days? You accept an invitation for dessert and then it turns into a date? With expectations at the end? In no way was I giving off signals that I liked the guy. In no way did I appear that I was interested or wanted to have any sort of "relations". What ever happened to being explicit, like "will you go out with me?", "do you like me?", "want to go out on a date?" I know it may be awkward, but isn't it better to just have things out in the open?Since when do things boil down to a game of reading signals and making assumptions? Was I on a date that I didn't know I was on?

Frustrated.

And stupid.